Right from the early morning, I drove korkor for his tuition class, then to bus station for my mom to go gaigai, and back home again to let the other 2 kids shower and have breakfast before jetting off to my friend's home in TTDI to drop meimei for her playdate session with my friend's dotter.
Before I knew it, it was time to pick korkor up and I drove mad crazy with didi on tow, as it wasn't so nice to leave him with my friend's for she would have her hands all tied up with a little small baby to handle. I suppose the 2 girls would leave her alone playing with each other. And they did.
I came back home with the boys to get some chores done before going back to my friend's home for her very delicious spaghetti lunch and spent some time chatting with her and cradling her very cute little 4 mth old baby boy, Ian. He really is sooooo cute. I felt very "motherly" all over again having him in my arms. It was so lovely. BUT no way I'm gonna have another one for the sake of that. I guess if I need to feel that way again, I just go to her house and help her carry her bb for a couple of hours or so. Nice!
As we almost wanted to go home, didi was getting very restless and wanted to play. Something. Anything. As I forbid him to play with anything i or phone, he went on to disturb the girls who were happily and quietly playing together with their Barbie dolls. After awhile, I stepped in and told numerous times for him to leave them alone on their own. He was very uncooperative. I had to sit in with him alone for sometime, on the 2nd floor to have a small talk.
I said they wanted to be left alone, and he should respect their decision. He asked me why. I said it's her house and her room, no reasons needed for that and that is exactly why I wouldn't want to leave him alone for a playdate with anyone at this moment of time. That's because he wouldn't want to listen to anyone, not even to ME, and he would have to learn to do that! And when the time comes he proves that he can listen and obey instructions, he would be having playdates too if he wants to. His eyes got all misty. I asked him if he understood what I said, he mumbled a soft yes and I told him now I am asking him to go downstairs. He obeyed without anymore fights.
Back home again, he showed his displeasure that his sister "betrayed" him by uttering mean words like "I don't want to friend you forever" and purposefully used her Mii to play badly in the Wii fishing games. That made her gone bonkers and she ran crying her eyes out to me.
I was sooo tired, I just wanna take some eye shuts but there she was, shouting right next to my ears whilst bawling away! I then talked calmly to her that I would not discuss anything with her if she's crying like that. And I would NOT take her for anymore playdates with my friend's dotter next time since this is the way she behaves after a playtime like this.
I reasoned with her that her brother felt very rejected by her at her playdate and he was feeling sad. She hasn't been quite nice to him either and she had a very fun time all the whole 5 hours there. So, what she could do now is to make it up to him and say sorry and offer some kind words for his pained heart instead. She said he's making her Mii losing her points, and I said that was nothing. She didn't lose anything at all, just let him be and be kind and nice to him back.
After this talk, she mellowed down and in no time, all are back to norm. These kids. Really tires me out.
So much so till I felt no mood to cook, and so I took them all down for a dip in the pool, showered, went all out for dinner instead. We had a very quiet and peaceful time alone, it was very worthwhile spending the time talking to them like that today anyway. Is there some other way I could have handle this situation, I am thinking....
