3 dates in one day! What a day!

Today is certainly a day worth blogging and remembering for. I took the kids out separately on 3 different times, all in a day's work, allowing them to choose what they want to eat at all and to accompany them what they want to do at all.

Truth be told, after last nite's post, I felt very guilty. If it had been a good day, there shouldn't be any tears, angst and jealousy in those 2 little flers, should there? So many ways I could have done better to ease the feelings pent up in them, and letting them have a nice day, albeit spending it differently. And I failed to plan it right. Failed miserably in being a mother!

So after talking it over with a Befriender, I woke up eagerly to put our plan to action! Even though I had only slept too late the night.

I was afraid the kids would be fighting over who to go on which slot and how I were to make it fair for them, but seeing korkor suggesting from youngest to eldest, and didi volunteering to go in the middle while meimei absolutely thrilled to just jump on the bandwagon straight away, I realized my worry was for nothing.

So, I took meimei out first for brekkie and before she thought about what she wanted to eat, korkor jumped on it and said she surely would ask for hakka mee! And that she did! There was nowhere else she wanted to go. Bad korkor!

It was closed for that day though, and she was easy going in settling for something else at that same place. *whew* I didn't want to drive over the town looking for things to eat! We chatted about simple stuffs, about her friends, about the playdate she had the day before, about what she wanted to do after that. Whilst she talked, I fed her as well, and it was a very happy morning time.

We settled on sand art after that, as she ruled out movies, shopping, fish spa, library. Those were my ideas since she had no idea at all what she had wanted to do.

When we reached the mall, we saw other painting stuffs which I prompted her to try. We took something like an hour to get the picture all done up, totally giving her all the attention she deserves. She was happy, with a colorful bright princess picture to bring home for the special day, and I was double happy seeing her cheerful little face.

We met up briefly with my Befriender who was nearby coincidentally and we parted ways for my next adventure (or shift).

Back home, didi was waiting patiently for his turn. Not the kind of excitement I was hoping to see though but well enough. Meimei had enjoyed herself so much that for a moment she felt a bit teary-eyed and kept hugging me and saying "I miss you" and almost like, putting up a scene to insist in following us on. I said to her we had a deal, and this was our plan so she should cooperate and not cry. She nodded and very bravely said "bye-bye! have fun!" and saw us to the door.

Being alone with didi, his hand in mine, the feeling shifted amazingly. From accompanying a little girl's feeling and enjoyment, it was then an entirely different sort of thing altogether. He said he wanted to go Old Town initially and I was taken aback. I asked him what he wanted to eat there, and apparently, he just wanted the ice cream float! But after thinking that there's nothing much else to eat over there, he said he wanted to go McD! Of all places, McD???? I really could hardly believe my ears!

YES! He insisted on McD! And he wanted a whole cheese burger with sesames on the top all to himself! And fries! And nuggets! AND ICE CREAM! My gawd! How badly I knew my little boy! I felt so awful! But I suspected a little that he could have been influenced by korkor and when prompted, it sure was! Bad korkor again!

Anyway, since I promised him that he can have what he wants, McD it is then!

He chomped on the food so happily. I was seated beside him and just looked at him. I asked him if he wanted to do this exercise again, he said yes. Maybe he could have one on one session with papa, I said. He replied that he would liked it and he thinks papa time would be even better. My eyes opened wide as I heard that and asked why. He said papa let him try on anything. Anything at all. Why, I should really think about what a control freak I have been then!

At one point of time, I brought back the day before's event again, and I asked him why he was so mean to his sister when we came home. He said she didn't want to play with him in my friend's house. I explained to him that I knew he felt hurt, but meimei has no girls to play dolls with and she wanted to enjoy the time playing them with another girl. She has her own life to live, and own friends to make but that didn't mean she loves him any less. And he needs to learn to deal with it. He nodded as he chomped on the fries. I wonder how much info he really digested, but at least it's an attempt.

It rained heavily by that time, and we had no other choice but to hang on around until it subsided a bit. He sat on me while he hungrily and enjoyably gobbled all the food up and I just can't mention enough how warming it felt just hugging him and looking down at his charming eyes. This little fella is such a challenging son, yet I feel he has such potential and good qualities that might just be undeveloped fully under my wing. I always feel so awful guilty I'm just not doing good enough.

Again, he had no inkling what he wanted to do next, and after being thrown a few options, he wanted to go to a bookshop and source for an origami book together. Again, I drove him to the same mall I been to in the morning.

On origami, he has been working very passionately in every free time he has, apart from playing Wii. This origami book I bought must be the most used and worthy book among all the rest. He has been folding and making all the few favorite ones of his over and over again, till he knows by heart how to fold a rabbit and a dinosaur without looking at it!

The rabbit and dinosaurs are not simple, for all I know. There are over 60 steps in each and yet, he conquered them all. He recently made this triceratops which looked really really awesome, I thought. And he uses them to decorate up his room, he said. It's all so cute.

Seeing his interest in origami, perhaps I thought it would be nice to throw him even more challenging ones to do. Yet, I scanned through each and every origami book there is in there, and couldn't find any which is more challenging than he already has been achieved so far. He saw one and kept pestering me to get it for him though, even I looked at it, it's nothing compared to those cool dinosaurs and abstract art that he has been making already, I bought it for him anyway, since I said it's his day. We went home, him feeling contented with book in hand while I was so pooped!

I plopped myself on the bed and very soon, passed out and awakened rudely about 10 mins or so, by meimei who wanted to read a book. Argh!!! I wanted to throw a tantrum already, but seeing the day had been going so good so far, I didn't want to waste that and forced myself up to read Little Miss Fun to her.

The date with korkor is such an eye opener that I MUST note it down, worthy of another post altogether. In the end, we came home at midnight and I can't wait to blog it all down, in case my memory fails me. I so love this day.