Funny, life. Now that the kids are all in their own world, the relationship with hubby takes a turn for the better. It's like we pay more attention to each other, love more and enjoy being together more. Seldom have us fighting and arguing anymore. Not that it was often previously though. I think having children is a hurdle to relationships. It really takes patience and tolerance to past this stage. At one time, I was tempted to look for love and attention elsewhere. Being busy with kids and family does make you feel like unloved, unappreciated and unnoticed. Now that the kids do not need us so much, we have more time and energy to look. Me at him, him at me. So I want to tell young couples this. No matter how loveless you feel towards your spouse, it is worth the time and effort to rekindle, rework the relationship than having a new one. Patience is virtue. Now I'm creating memories. Making him put lotion on my back for me. Fighting for the pillowy. Waking up in the middle of the night being totally contented having him beside me.