Table manners, chapter 295.

Often, I find it very irritating and rude when someone make a remark or comment about the food another someone cooked and served to him/her. Yes, one of them I know is my hubs. He's a terrible complimentor (no such word, but just so you know, it meant, someone who gives compliments) but a very good critic. He argues, he doesn't mean to criticize, it's just a comment to let the cook knows (of course not those in restaurants but people like me, or my mom or his mom).

There was once we all went balik kampung and his mama, as with any other mamas, was so delighted to see us all home, had cooked dinner for us. But in her hurry, probably she put too little water in the rice cooker and hence the rice turned out half cooked.

All the MEN in the household commented about the rice and she explained over and over again why it turned out that way. She wasn't agitated a bit, but why is it so, I was the one who felt that way?

I mean, come on la, people buy and cook and serve you with all her love as part of the ingredients, just eat la, can die not eating half cooked rice? I just don't see the logic of "just comment, not criticizing"

Yesterday, korkor commented on my dinner I cooked. He said, why only 2 dishes? For your information, even though it was 2 dishes, but there were minced pork, corn, and mushrooms in 1, so many varieties in just 1 dish!

Maybe I had been hiao lately and felt the joy of cooking up more than 2 dishes at a time. The last Sunday, I whipped up 4 dishes and a soup and I am proud to say, that dinner had totally revved up hubs' appetite as he commented he didn't have one just before dinner and yet, he refilled his bowl of rice. I was so mighty pleased but, no, he didn't praise me for that great awesome *ahem* sweet and sour koe-loe-yuk! He's like that, he thinks it's good enough for me to know he went for a 2nd serving.

OK, back to korkor. I was really furious! What kind of appreciation is that to a mom who went all the trouble and fuss to make a homecooked meal just so to have that kind of comment? I told him outright that it's utterly rude and he should learn to keep his opinion to himself in future, no matter who cooks for him.

I do think one shouldn't be a fussy eater, or even if one is born to be so, he/she ought not to give comments which are not flattering. Unless it's a praise, then only that should be out from the mouth!

And I think, he, MEN especially, need to be taught about THAT from a young age, just so he would appreciate his mama and his wife's cooking with all their love ingredient for him.