Some of the times, she would say her friend gave her this or that. Smaller stuffs like stickers and pencils, I would just nod my head and ask her if she thanks her friend. But today, she showed me a really nice clip and said so&so gave that to her. I was rather shocked, and first thing that came into my mind was, is it true? Or could it be that she "took" that from her friend? I really hope not.
I told her to give it back to her friend tomorrow, nicely explaining to her that it's not a good habit to take things like these from her friend, even though she's the one to give to her or her mommy lets her. If she liked it, she had to "work hard" for it herself to get it, not getting into this habit to take things from anyone. I said, if she has this habit, next time some "bad men" would give her nice nice things and will take her inside a room and touch her everywhere, including her private parts and making her really painful.
She asked me how to work hard for it, I said working hard means, like right now, be a good girl and I would reward her for good behavior or good results from her studies. When older, then working hard means earning money herself decently to buy the things she loves, instead of hoping from people to give to her.
I pray she understands what I'm trying to say. Boy! I don't have this kind of worry with my boys, they really don't bring home anything from anyone or love any materials stuffs. They are just happy go lucky boys, happy with anything thrown over to them. With the girl, I really have to crack my brain more to make sure she won't "taam", like wants to own anything that catches her eyes.
She definitely needs more attention to be educated on "working the proper way to get her doodads". I have to balance carefully too, not to spoil her on getting everything she wants, but also to suppress her loves over material stuffs so she won't do anything wrongly. However, having a high desire to own something that she really loves can also be a good motivation for her to work hard for it. Balancing! Balancing! I need to learn fast!
4 comments:
Good, good, you are teaching your daughter the correct path in life. Really hopes that she gets it. *thumbs up*
mun,
where's the minyak angin cap kapak? i need it fast!
sometimes i wonder, i don't remember my mom teaching me all these before, how come i turn out ok one ah? (aiseh, bodek ownself only!). makes me wonder if i'm worrying too much.
You are telling her the right things....awesome job, SY. I, too, heard from my friend here who has a girl and a boy, that boys are much easier to bring up. Girls have to be more careful since they are more emo! That's what she told me coz then her girl will say the mom is hurting her feelings wor. That girl is only 5 years old and know how to say that already!
dawn,
gee, thanks! *blushing*
these are really challenging tasks! and it's getting harder by day. i would need help soon.
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