I got this tag from Jo-N sometime ago..
.. write a tribute to my dad in conjunction with Father's Day to be posted on this page and similarly, a tribute to my mom as well for this page.
It took me some time as I thought in length about what I will write for my dad and mom. And I can't find the words to it. It'll also be a pity as they never do know much English, never surf the internet, never uses the computer and I thought it will be weird for me if I declare how much I love them over here while they are in the absolute darkness about it. This just goes for me la, ok, not to piss some of you who think otherwise.
Even then, if I profess how much I love them in their face, it wouldn't be as much meaning as to really finding the time to spend with them.
In fact, I hereby admit I have very much failed in my role as a daughter, much more so as a daughter-in-law. That's because my dad, in his 60's and not spending his rest of his later half of his life as he should be, happily, without stress, with his darling (my mom la, of course), and his children and grandchildren. I am so sorry, I really cry everytime when he tells me he feels bored when he's back home and the home is empty, and how much we knew a home is not a home without our loved ones, don't we? *sob* *sob* (excuse me while I take a tissue and blow my nose first... pfftttt....) *
.... and with and my *ahem* beloved parents-in-law... I am so sorry that I am not the daughter-in-law that you wanted, the kind of wife you want for your son.
Hey, this is easier than I thought. Writing confessions much easier than writing tributes. And I feel so much better after dumping it all out. Sorry for the diversion of traffic.
Anyway, thanks for reading. Please leave me comments that I am a good daughter and considerably nice daughter-in-law too, though not perfect and tell me the usual not to blame myself, yeah? I won't mind hearing some compliments or two as well.. :D
Else, I might go into serious depression mode and pretty bad side effects hoh?
3 comments:
Hi Gargies, nice tribute....and your dad younger than me. Ha ha.
Gargies, you mentioned about some not familiar or interested in computers?....I managed to get uncles and aunties, BIL's, SIL's who can't type (I couldn't too before), they always afraid of technology etc...and also saying bored at home.
When they visited us here...I made them sit beside me..and 2 BIL's, one uncle, all older than me...
one is an orchid lover, breeds orchids, my SIL"s too...all love oldies songs, food, cities like in China...
So, I asked, "what song you like to hear"? One said, "I like Ricky Nelson", One, "Cliff Richard", etc...as well, I purposely went via google to Hawaii, Brazil, Amazon forests look for exotic orchids...then found the oldies songs, pictures...and their wide eyes, open mouth, loud exclaimation, just like 6 year old kids.
And Gargies...today, I get emails from them plus photos too quite regularly.
I took the challenge, and today, all of them have old computers their children gave to them as they upgrade to latest ones.
The thing is...to show, get them excited at what the computer can do...but, ha ha, my SIL joked, she caught him looking at women on the NET, ha ha. Hey, at least he knows how to surf. (I didn't teach him that!)
I always knew I was, am a good salesman, ha ha.
I even taught a couple of aunties, SIL's how to use the computer from here, step by step, by putting myself in their place.
My neices, cousins always tell me their parents afraid, not interested. THAT! I never believe. Everyone has an interest...we have to create and show them.
Today, in the senior citizen homes for the aged, the government presented modiefied, refurbished computers, got student volunteers to show, teach...and presently there are a lot of Ah Por's, Ah Kongs, who can't speak ten words of English, now emailing relatives in China. And they are late 70's, even 80's too.
I believe, create an interest..something they love or like, and Bingo! Their lives change for the better.
It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.
Have a nice day, Gargies, Lee.
Thanks Lee for the sweet note. So nice of you. My other faithful readers just let me switched into my depression mode without any nice words to hear. Sigh.
I can't help my old folks to get hooked up on internet, I suppose I am not a very good salesperson. Furthermore, I know nuts about Mandarin and they know nuts about English.
And they are very reluctant to learn new things.
Well, I guess I'm just not a good salesperson enough.
Hey, I'm sucks as a daughter and daughter-in-law too. I have no defense to make, as defense is a kind of making excuses here.
Wonder if we will face the same 'po-ying' one day? Sob sob..
Thinking of it make me feel depress too...
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