We went to a theme park on Sun.
My little baby just marginally failed the height level for entitlement to a free entrance pass.
What would you do then? Buy one ticket for her or make a "force entry" to the theme park without a care on that lousy height criteria? If can, please make your say on the polls I created on the sidebar, please? please? please?
For me, I would have relented to these businessmen's money making mechanisms. Just pay for her, accept she's grown up now and not a baby anymore. If not, might as well stay at home or just go to a park to entertain for free.
For my hubby, of course, he has an entirely different thought. He thinks it's a stupid criteria, and furthermore, she's just "marginally" there. So, can make a "force entry", don't even need to bargain. And he just pulled her hand and took her in while I stood there amazed, and quickly followed his footsteps just in case they demand money from me instead.
And that is how eventually, I was landed in a very annoying scene, which I knew it would happen anyway.
She had managed to get in to the different rides, no stopping from the person manning the rides entrances, but when we reached the bumper car section, that's where trouble brews.
I left her with her 2-ko to wait for their turn patiently while I went over to take a seat just nearby. Meanwhile, papa and the eldest son went bumping their cars in the adult section.
As the round came to an end, and the door was opened for new little players, I knew something was amiss when I can't see her going in to the enclosed area. I walked over to the front, and the young stuck up malay girl said she needs the band on her wrist to be allowed to enter.
I saw my little one, so tiny and pathetic, standing at the entrance, like being bullied, like a little puppy, lost and sobbing quietly at the side. Oh, my! How my heart ached that particular moment!
I bargained with the girl, but being the stuck-up girl she is, basking in the glory of it, and holding the key to children's happiness, she seems to be delighted that she has the power not to let her in and not to let her in, she maintained.
I really fumed, and I carried my baby out immediately, where her quiet sobs turned drastically into thunder and I felt so sorry and guilty for her. Went to buy her something on her own selection, and that consoled her for awhile.
But still, that image, that scenario, that disappointed and awfully pathetic look on her face, still haunts me until now.
During the journey home, I talked it over with my hubby. He maintained that everything can be discussed and bargained.
I said, if I would have to make a scene to have my way, then it would have spoilt my day, and that's not what we want in the first place, right? The purpose to go to such place is to have a funfilled family day, the children enjoy themselves, and that in return makes us parents happy.
He said "That's why, it's you who doesn't want to go through this process. It's you who wouldn't want to bargain your way. Everything can be discussed and talked over. Laws are made from people and wouldn't be so rigid".
So, that makes me an even unhappier mom that day. Like it's my fault that my girl was caught in such a scenario and I didn't make it right for her.
Yeah, I hated that stuck up girl manning that section. She could have just closed one eye and let her in, and made everyone happy. I wanted to shout at her "wait till you become a mom!". Then again, she's just doing her duty. That's her job to do. To give in is her pleasure, to be strict is her policy. How to blame her like that?
So, who to blame? Surely the dad, but see see the dad blames me back for being so soft and do not want to "show my thick-skinned ugly face" to the whole wide world to see. I could have done something for my child, and yet I didn't, for the sake of saving my own "face"...
And thus, it's my fault, and I am left to sulk for the rest of my life for it.
Arrggghhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(aiyah, better stay at home la, why go and torture myself with all these unhappiness?)
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I truely feel sorry for you and your little girl.
I totally agree with you and you have my full support here.
Also, as parents, we should set a good example to our children, by not taking advantage or breaking the rules.
I have just taken the poll and I would stand by your side, buy a ticket for her and solve the problem. Me being me, I can't break rules. Talk to your husband and discuss about how you want your children to be when they grow up. Like Lee says, set good example to our children.
Yeah, just buy a ticket and let everybody happy...isnt't it? I mean how much does a ticket cost and does it really hurts that much?
Its difficult to see our children crying and deprived of something very enjoyable. Heartbreaking in fact!
We can be deprived but seeing our children suffer its something mothers definitely cannot take.
I feel sometimes Daddies are "penny wise pound foolish". When they buy something they like, they spend hundreds or thousands. Then they try to save at something necessary.
Nevermind lah. You cannot live with them but you cannot live without them also :-)
I am one of those people who abide the rules... most of the time anyway. Yes, rules were made from people and should not be so rigid. But the thing is, when it comes to "push and shove", the other person has the rules to back them up...what do you have? So to force your way to bend the rules for your own benefit just doesn't sound right.
I think you did the right thing.
Now I feel so guilty for washing dirty linens in public for all to see.
I suppose a majority of people (90%) according to the normal distribution ratio, would think alike. Unfortunately, my hubby could be one of those who fall in the 10% category.
To him, this has got nothing to do with role models or not. He's one who likes to challenge people, pushing to the limits, and he thinks why shouldn't these be good qualities to be instilled in children as well?
For example, one time in Phuket, my 2nd boy suddenly came back with a playtoy in his hand. He said he asked from the man if he could have one and he got it.
I admonished him and said he shouldn't be asking things from strangers. It's not good.
But papa challenged me back and said he thought it's a good value to teach them to ask. If they stopped asking, they wouldn't know what they missed and what knowledge they could have gained.
Does it sound common sense to you too?
So, for those who knows my hubby, you know it's not the money so much that he cares about. And CY, you know what? Last Sun, we didn't even need to buy any tickets, as it was a company outing and the company pays for all of us. It's just him and his mindset! Duh!
I can't agree with your husband's point of view.
In my opinion, we should only ask for the things that we have the right to ask for. Otherwise, there is not much different from being greedy.
I don't encourage my children to ask things from people, be it a stranger or a friend. Of course they can ask for knowledge, not not material things lo.
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