Didi came home yesterday, looking pretty bad. Like kinda forlorn or something went terribly wrong in school for him. His face had black patches, to add to the special effect. He was very late coming out from the school compound and we didn't scold him or punish him either when he couldn't explain why.
I took him home to have his shower and decided to have a "special bonding time" with him away from the home. Told him we were going to have sushi for lunch and he asked why, it wasn't any special day. In my mind, I said "yes, it's a special day, everyday is" but I said to him "that's ok, we just gonna go out and have a different and special lunch as a change".
So, there we were, both of us, hand in hand, walking into Sushi King. Normally they would get all excited just seeing the conveyor belt with sushi plates, but didi was very cool. I guess when they don't have the other 2 as company, they would quiet down pretty much. Unbelievable, but their behavior are so much different when there's only 1 or 2 or all 3 of them together.
I ordered a set lunch to share between us, and took some sushi as extra. And slowly while he was enjoying his food, I try to ask him if everything is alright. Nothing much seems to be wrong anyway, just that he was late because he thought he needed to start staying back in school for extra BM classes, as I've mentioned the day before. I guess he missed the part when I said "next week".
And the thing I was worried most, if there was any little haksehwui counterparts bullying him or disturbing him. He did say one of the classmates took his eraser cap from him. I was rather enraged that some can just take his "favorite" things away just like that, probably claiming it's theirs. The eraser cap is something he was very happy about when I bought it for him last weekend and made him very eager to do his homework fast. So I told him he should take that back from that little rascal, that he can't take whatever that doesn't belong to him and similarly, noone supposed to take his own belongings.
Sometimes I wonder, if his reputation in class was so bad that noone defended him when he was fighting back for his own things or rights, not even the class teacher? Heiz.. when I thought about that, my heart really sinks. It hurts that badly thinking how he feels alone if he's without any friends in school. I just hope that's not the case.
Part of me wanted to set things right for him, yet part of me wants him to be independent and find a way out to his little problems in school. I guess I shall see how it goes, give him some time first.
Anyway, when we finished our lunch and went to pick meimei up, he was back to his own chatty self again. Whew!
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I experienced what u mentioned before, esp with my girl.. she is the most quiet among my 3.. when she gets into the car without a smile, i know something is amiss.. sigh.. mum got to "dig" again.. slowly too. Like u, have to wait for some time 1st before digging one. And she does talk, she talks in syllables, yes, no, er.. 3 words, 4 words.. not in strings of sentences.. and me? sometimes have to fill in the words for her in between to hurry her up.. know what i mean? impatient mum ma..
anyway, give them an hour or two, they get over the "dilemma" and back to their old self again.
Your son's losing things reminded me of my fat nephew, he always get bullied in class, his stationery always go missing, mum went banyak kali to approach teachers, students.. no avail.. now he is in std 5, big sized but still losing something but not as bad as those younger years... :)
claire,
next time.. i use rotan, you use money, when we ask our kids to tell! kaotim! no more problems.
believe it or not..."good student", "bad student", "average student", they all have their own problems lo at school...i'll tell you later.
i just hope this would help u feel relief about your son's situation in school (haha...)
*gasp*.. so Q geh? That day I went to book shop and grab this book about bullying.. cos it was rm5 nia.. Let you read lak...
say u lopmi first.
It was so nice of you to treat your son to a special lunch although it is just for korek'ing' info only but it is a nice move on your part. Your other children not jealous meh? Would they also get their very own special lunch with you - one child a weekday special lunch, one weekday special lunch for your other half, that leaves 3 other special lunches for your "online friends", sao tao moh? ;)
jessy,
thanks so much for your comforting words. summary is, "kar kar yau boon lan yi dek king", haimoe? i also know chinese proverbs.
goolypop,
*gasp* that was the book i was looking for! "1001 ways to bully people", right?
ilopzyou. now, give me the book.
mun,
the other 2 not around mah, mah jajadeidei lor..
you tok what la, i dunno what you mean oso... *act blur*
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